Lol, okay I am mostly kidding when I say that, but I know that I am guilty of rude behavior at times.
The incident that causes this blog post has to do with a co-worker of Michael's and a common theme that I have posted about before.
Illness.
This co-worker of Michael's asked him recently if I had a job yet. I don't, so Michael's answer of course was "No, she doesn't. She has been sick quite a bit." Then this co-worker proceeded to rant to Michael that there is no reason his wife shouldn't have a job, that their co-worker who has been sicker than his wife has a job and that his wife has no excuse.
*For those of you who don't know... I have asthma, a condition called Vaso-Vagel Syncope (fainting), and Endometriosis. At any given time any one of these (usually the combinations) can flatten me out for several days to weeks*
Now I should mention that Michael kept this from me for over a week and a half. It didn't come up till I asked about how this co-worker, who ranted about my not having a job, was doing and if Michael worked with them lately or not.
Michael shared with me that responding politely was difficult but he said that "Its really hard for her to find a job. In the past she has been fired for her health problems getting in the way." He also stated that their co-worker is really fortunate to have her job, that their store manager was really going the extra mile so that they could keep their job despite their sickness.
This person of course argued that it is illegal for companies to fire someone for having health problems. Not that this stopped the people who fired me from firing me, they had several different stories for why I was let go. None the less it came after I had fainted at work and had to be brought home. (This was several years ago by the way.)
I am discouraged that this person, who I would have called my friend, talked about me this way to my husband. I am not really surprised that I am facing harsh criticism about my health struggles again. I don't feel that the world we live in supports those who struggle with health problems fairly.
If you don't look sick, you're wasting time and if you look terribly sick, you're incapable. There are people who look awful who feel fine. There are people who look fine who feel awful. But no one has the right to judge.
Its rude, its hurtful and its unfair. Keep your comments to yourself if you have nothing nice to say. Plenty of people are having a hard enough time as it is, you don't need to cause them any more pain. You can't judge someone fairly if you don't have all the facts.
If you can't do those things, then as the title of this post says "You can be a rude person too!"
